I think it's fair to say that female empowerment has, in recent years, become very much a focal point in our society - and rightly so.
After so many years of inequality, I understand completely the need to raise women up and for parents of daughters to do all that they can to ensure they are raising their children to truly believe in themselves.
Every single day my Facebook feed is filled with images of little girls rocking super cute outfits bearing Beyonce's immortal song lyrics "Who runs the world? Girls!"
I'm all for this...If I had a daughter myself I'm sure I'd be instilling the same message in her...but what message does a phrase like that send to boys?
In our eagerness to empower the next generation of women, I fear that perhaps we're inadvertently disempowering the next generation of men.
Here are just a few of the many things that have recently struck me as very contradictory in a modern world of supposed "Gender Equality"....
*Equal Choices...for GIRLS only
When browsing a book store recently for new reads for my toddler sons collection, I came across a range of books entitled "Perfect Books For...."
One of the books was called "Perfect Books for 2 Year Old Girls"...it contained lots of stories about princesses, fairies and so on...
But here's what I noticed...the alternate book, which featured stories of pirates, knights and battles...was simply entitled "Perfect Books For 2 Year Olds".... No mention of the word "boys" anywhere...because of course, these publishers had realised their mistake in making assumptions about what girls want to read about and were conscious not to alienate them from reading the alternate adventure stories based purely on their gender!
And that's GREAT....it sends the message that girls are welcome to choose either one of the books...but also...it's not exactly very fair to the boys, is it?
The girls have clear access to both of those books...whichever takes their fancy....but what about the boys?
Oh no....they are clearly informed that they only have the option of the adventure book, because the other is CLEARLY labelled as for GIRLS!
* The disallowing of positive male role models
I read something recently which, I have to admit, kind of irked me a little - it was a piece about my son's favourite thing in the entire world...The Thomas The Tank Engine franchise!
The piece discussed how the Island of Sodor, on which Thomas is set, is a patriarchal society where only men are in charge, with no positive female role models - only female trucks who are to be pushed and pulled about by the male trains.
Now...for a start this irritated me because it's quite untrue...living with a miniature Thomas expert I'm painfully aware of the male to female character ratio, and actually there are at least 15 strong female engines that I can name without even having to think very hard - I can see them right now grinning up at me from my sons train table!
But what really bugged me is this...with so many TV shows focusing firmly on providing positive female role models (Doc McStuffins, Sheriff Callie, Dora The Explorer and so on) girls today are very well catered for - is it REALLY so terrible for their to be positive MALE role models around too?
In our quest to empower our little girls, are we really going to completely disregard the fact that little boys still need male role models? Something other than the stereotypical superheroes and pirates?
Perhaps I'm being over sensitive but I do worry that we may be so keen to build up the women of tomorrow that we end up teaching the men of tomorrow that they're not of equal worth and value...that they don't deserve the right to equality in the same way as females do, that they're somehow worth less.
I fear a future of downtrodden men, taught that females rule the world and are the ones to be built up and offered every opportunity whereas they must make do with what's given to them and accept their roles as the less-than sex...
Basically...a future echoing the past, but with the gender roles reversed.
Is this really what we want? Shouldn't we be working to make the genders truly, finally, once and for all equal?
I hope I'm wrong, and I know I'll be trying my hardest to teach my sons that they can be whatever and whoever they want to be....be it Pirate or Princess...but that task is made all the more difficult when the story book and costume aisles are constantly contradicting me.
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