Prince Harry and Robin Williams’ son Zak have spoken of the difficulties of grieving a family member who was in the public eye.
The pair were speaking in The Me You Can’t See: A Path Forward, which was released on Apple TV in the early hours of Friday and followed the docuseries by Oprah Winfrey and Harry.
Robin Williams, the four-time Oscar winning actor, died by suicide in 2014.
Zak said: “From my end it was really hard to separate initially the process of privately grieving versus sharing the grieving with the general public.
“I really didn’t get a chance to really focus on the private grieving process until a year and a half after my dad passed away.”
Harry, whose mother Diana, Princess of Wales, died in 1997, said: “I think we have a lot of shared experience when you talk about that … when you see so many people around the world grieving for someone they feel as though they knew them better than you did in a weird way because you’re unable to grieve yourself.
“It’s like … how are you grieving more for someone who was my parent and I’m unable to grieve myself?”
The 90 minute show had experts from The Me You Can’t See advisory board further discussing issues raised during the five-part series on mental health.
Earlier in the docuseries, Harry said he was “somewhat ashamed” of the way he dealt with Meghan sharing her suicidal thoughts before a charity event at the Royal Albert Hall in London in 2019.
Harry picked up on a point raised by Jo Robinson, head of suicide prevention research at Orygen, about the importance of talking openly about suicide and self-harm.
Such communication helps give voice to something that’s “terribly distressing and terribly frightening for them to talk about”, she said.
The Duke said: “I think it’s so interesting because so many people are afraid of being on the receiving end of that conversation (about suicide) because they don’t feel as though they have the right tools to be able to give the right advice but what you’re saying is you’re there.
“Listen, because listening and being part of that conversation is, without a doubt, the best first step that you can take.”
Harry also told Oprah that he felt mental health and climate change were “two of the most pressing issues that we’re facing and, in many ways, they are linked”.
“The connecting line is about our collective well-being and when our collective well-being erodes, that affects our ability to be caretakers of ourselves, of our communities and of our planet ultimately,” the Duke of Sussex added.
“We have to create a more supportive culture for each other where challenges don’t have to live in the dark, where vulnerability is healthy and encouraged and, of course, where physical and mental health can be treated equally because they are one.”
Lady Gaga and Glenn Close also featured in the series, with Gaga discussing her serious mental health struggles after she was raped as a teenager.
Glenn returned for the conversation special and spoke about the impact of Covid-19 on her wellbeing.
She told Harry and Winfrey: “It has directly affected my mental health. It helped that I had a dog.
“I think – and I was thinking about this today – we have gone through an amazing, unprecedented time now. For me, I think it’s as big a shift in the world as 9/11 was.
“We now are in a transforming world. It will take us a while to be able to articulate to ourselves what the result of that has been on us as individuals.”
Useful websites and helplines
Mind, open Monday to Friday, 9am-6pm on 0300 123 3393.
Samaritans offers a listening service which is open 24 hours a day, on 116 123 (UK and ROI - this number is FREE to call and will not appear on your phone bill).
CALM (the Campaign Against Living Miserably) offer a helpline open 5pm-midnight, 365 days a year, on 0800 58 58 58, and a webchat service.
The Mix is a free support service for people under 25. Call 0808 808 4994 or email help@themix.org.uk
Rethink Mental Illness offers practical help through its advice line which can be reached on 0808 801 0525 (Monday to Friday 10am-4pm). More info can be found on rethink.org.