So you’ve found a fellow human to hibernate with in the impending cold months. Congratulations.
But now you want to know if it’s going to be all kissing under the mistletoe or you’ll be single again by New Years Eve.
According to people on Reddit, these are the 9 things that are big green flags on whether your relationship is going to go the distance or fall at the first hurdle.
Empathy
“Taking the time to (at least attempt) to understand what you’re feeling when you are upset. The ability to empathise with someone you are arguing with is a skill that not many people have, and it is one to be treasured.”
No Judgement
“When you can comfortably start conversation knowing that the judgement of the other person won’t be petty or defensive. Just honest opinions shared.”
No Embarrassment
“They never make you feel embarrassed when you’re with them. I’ve told my boyfriend so many embarrassing stories about myself and I’ve asked so many stupid questions but he has never made me feel embarrassed or stupid about these things at all.”
Don’t Play Games
“Instead of playing games, they follow through. Call when they say they are going to call. Show up to things they said they’d go to, and on time. They make you a priority.”
Love Through The Arguments
“My boyfriend and I were having a huge argument and he had to leave for work. He still came up to me, gave me a kiss and said I love you. I gave him a weird look and he said: “We’re fighting right now, but that doesn’t change how I feel about you”. Big green flag right there.”
Honest Sex
“We can have an honest discussion on what we like and don’t like in bed and whatever kinks we have.”
They Make You A Better Person
“Commitment to helping you be a better person, while also open to any assistance in becoming a better person themselves.”
No Shouting
“When we disagree on something, we talk about it instead of yelling at the top of our voices at each other.”
The Silent Understanding
“This is going to sound odd, and it’s probably just my experience, but when your minds go to the same place at the same time, and you can have a full conversation with just a look. Or one person thinks it and the other person then says it.”