There are a lot of people who wonder how many dates you should wait to have sex — or just want to know how many dates other people are waiting.
Remember the three date rule? The guideline (that still exists in some circles!) that claims the third date is when it's time to get down and dirty. It was really popular for a long time, but I don't buy it, and neither do others. It's time we say goodbye to that guideline, and challenge the question as a whole.
Because really, the question is a pointless one. Who cares how long other people are waiting? Why do you think what's right for them will be right for you? If you want to have a healthy and happy sex life, it shouldn't be by anyone else's standards but your own. Especially because, as you'll see, the amount of time that people wait varies so much.
We also need to rethink the language of how long people "wait" to have sex. It makes it sound like it's something from which we should hold ourselves back. It encourages the idea that it's an instinct we should fight. In reality, some people don't "wait" at all.
And why should they? If they want to do it, there's nothing to wait for. Here's why the idea of waiting to have sex doesn't matter.