This is a purposefully short post. This is because it's what's important to you - not me. It's an exercise that will require some thought of your part (sorry!).
What's really important to you?
(in no particular order)
Health
Happiness
Success
Wealth
Family
Friends
Job
Career
House
Children
Cars
How others view you
Awards
Travel
Location.....
Take some time and prioritise your list.
Now work out why each one is where it is - is this your 'happiness scale' or your 'duty scale'.
What's important to you should be what makes you happiest. Working in your zone and your flow creates all the lovely positive thinking and thoughts that create a happy environment for you and all those around you.
Take some time and create your Happiness scale. Is there a difference between that and the first one?
Why are you prioritising a sense of duty over your happiness? If you're unhappy you're not productive and what you want out of life won't come as easily.
Marry up your scales - prioritise and focus on your happiness.