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Sex is great; getting between the sheets (or wherever the mood strikes) with someone you care about is even better and adding a sex toy into the equation is a sure-fire recipe for a mind-blowing session.
Gone are the days where vibrators had to be hidden in drawers and buying a cock ring in Boots felt like a cardinal sin, using sex toys as a couple is easier than ever – especially as the bashful can always shop online. Introducing a toy is not about undermining the boudoir skills of either person, nor is it saying you’re not excited by each other, it’s a pleasurable way of exploring new, and possibly unchartered, realms of pleasure.
Yes, it can feel vulnerable, but sharing a new experience together is always bonding (or bondage, as the case may be) and these bedroom gadgets will ensure both of you have a brilliant time.
From a dual action vibrator to an egg that allows for shared sexual pleasure in a discreet manner, I’ve picked out the best sex toys for using with your partner – Valentine’s Day just got a whole lot hotter.
Want pleasure on a budget? There are plenty sex toy sales happening ahead of Valentine’s Day. Love Honey is having an up to 50% off sale for Valentine’s Day, Lelo is offering 40% off, and Ann Summers also has an outlet section with discounts.
The party is literally in your pants with this thong, complete with detachable bullet vibrator. The control can then be handed to your partner, and when your pleasure is in the hands of your playmate, the anticipation and element of surprise encourages intense arousal. As long as they are within a 10-metre radius they can continue to tease and turn you on. If you’re feeling brave enough you could even wear them out to dinner.
This butt plug has two speeds and give patterns of posterior-pleasing vibrations, making for intense orgasms – and lots of fun. Its satisfying curves bend with your body and mean you can enjoy comfortable but deliciously pleasurable fun in the bedroom.
Who says men can’t multi-task? This, rather intense looking, contraption is all the joy of a cock ring combined with a prostrate penetrator for ultimate arousal and pleasure. It can be used solo as well as with your partner and is much easier to slip on (and in) than a first glance might suggest.
Buy it now.
Tease and pleasure each other with the 10 vibration settings of this dual vibrator. You can bend the toy into whichever shape feels best for you, massaging the G-spot or clitoris, and the versatile, slim shape means this can be worn as a couples’ ring too, to send powerful vibrations to you both. Good relationships are about sharing after all.
This harness-free toy offers a mutually satisfying pegging or strap-on sex session. Adjust it according to what feels good for you both.
Hula Beads, Lelo, £149
The first ever remote-controlled pleasure bead, these rotate and vibrate with powerful, yet discreet, pulsations. If you’re familiar, or a fan even, of Ben Wa balls then these give the same subtle sensation, with some added oomph. It’s virtually silent and you can adjust the intensity with the flick of a wrist.
Forget ribbed condoms, these textured sleeves add girth, texture and pleasure into proceedings. Not only do they mean the penis-haver can last longer, they also give the other person an intense, multi-layered experience.
Sex toys are for life, not just for Valentine’s Day. OK, maybe not life but with an 11-piece kit, there’s plenty of time of experiment and mix things up for years to come. Excuse the pun.
Featuring a soft shell and a solid metal ball, this nifty little vibrator can be controlled by either you or your partner and deliver intense waves of pleasure. Because of the size of the vibrator it can be inserted into either the vagina or the rectum and can be kept in during sex, too.
Double the sex toys, double the fun. These twin vibrators hit the G-spot with 10 varying settings and a whole host of different uses – for everyone involved. They’re easy to use and control, so are perfect for couples who are slightly tentative about bringing sex toys into the bedroom.
Ah, the humble cock ring. Not only does this one emit powerful vibrations, it can also be turned one way to stimulate the clitoris and the other to stimulate the balls of your partner. Fun all round!
IDA, Lelo, £145
This state-of-the-art sex toy is definitely at the luxury end of the sex toy scale – in fact it looks more like a hi-tech gadget for your TV room than a pleasure-giving accessory for the bedroom. Worn by women, the remote-controlled couple’s vibrator delivers vibrations so powerful that your partner can feel them too.
Sharing is caring, and that’s certainly the case with this double-ended dildo. Each end has three graduated beads to enhance stimulation and arouse sensations to ramp things up a notch in the bedroom.
How To Get Off is our answer to Valentine’s Day, celebrating bodies, pleasure and fantasy – whatever your relationship status. We’ll be exploring what really gets us off in 2020, looking at sexual awakenings, toys and erotica, and real-life experience.