Anyone whoâs ever tried to get a group selfie with their girlfriends knows just how hard it is to get a photo where everyone is happy.
Why? Because the moment we look at a photo of ourselves, weâre hard-wired to scan for our so-called âfaultsâ.
It doesnât matter how many of your friends think you look beautiful, youâre convinced you look like an ogre.
Thatâs why one blogger is urging her followers to try to see themselves as othersâ see them.
Louise Aubery posted two identical photos of herself in her bikini. One was captioned with how others would see her, while the second included all the âfaultsâ she saw in herself.
âWhenever I see a picture of me, the first things which catches my eyes are my FLAWS. I always see what is wrong,â she wrote.
But she notes that when she looks at a photo of other people, she focuses on something else entirely.
âI really do not look at peopleâs flaws first when I look at a picture of someone else. On the contrary, I tend to focus on their assets,â she wrote.
She then urged women to treat themselves as others would, focusing on their good points and showing themselves a little love.
âWe really need to learn not to be so harsh on ourselves. It is not healthy. I am going to work on it, and I hope you will too.â
Speaking to Metro.co.uk, she explained further: âSelf-criticism comes from several causes. The society weâve evolved in overemphasises our physical appearances. The influence of role models, the use of photo editing; it puts a great pressure on our shoulders and nourishes the feeling of not being worthy enough.â
Well said.