Parents With Different Surnames To Their Kids React To Being Told They May Have To Prove Relationship At Passport Control

Some parents have reacted with outrage at the updated guidelines for travel past border control.

If you’re gearing up for a family summer holiday, the last thing that might be on your mind is proving that your child is your own - but this is the advice tweeted out on Thursday by the Home Office to parents who have a different surname.

The Home Office has issued advice recommending that parents with different surnames to their children bring proof the child is theirs, such as a birth certificate or adoption certificate to “help get through passport control quicker”.

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Some parents, however, have reacted angrily to the Tweet, calling the policy outdated and even “Victorian”.

One reader pointed out she was “completely against” it and said it was not unusual in the 21st Century for parents to have different names from their children.

I am fundamentally against this. My husband and I have different surnames. And our son bears my husband's. Not unusual for parents to have different surnames in the 21st Century. Appalling stuff by @sajidjavid and the Home Office.

— Katherine Mendelsohn (@Katheri48033429) August 2, 2018

The travel advice, which was updated in June, states that in some cases parents travelling with children of different surnames may be asked extra questions at security. It recommends travelling with birth, adoption, or marriage certificates.

While some pointed out the move is about safeguarding children from harm, such as from kidnap, others pointed out that there were already steps taken to verify identity when applying for child’s passport.

I don't defend the home office very often but what if a child was kidnapped and was trying to be taken abroad, would you not want them questioned if they had a different surname then? https://t.co/2XLRRe6u2R

— Danielle Warman (@dani_warman) August 2, 2018

Some people felt that the advice was patriarchal, and that it might single out mothers for example who have either chosen not to marry or not to take their husband’s name.

And back to the patriarchy we go. Women do not belong to men. Therefore we are under no obligation to change our name should we choose to marry.
Have you any idea how sexist this is!?

— Hattie (@Hatspin) August 2, 2018

I have been married for over 30 years and never took my husband’s name. My family has travelled many times and no one has ever questioned if my children are my children. Why are you trying to take this country back to the 1950s?

— Fiona Senior (@dartwalker) August 2, 2018

I am not taking birth certificates with me on holiday. I chose to keep MY name on marriage. Dear Home Office it is 2018, not all women want to have a new surname on marriage..... https://t.co/Vuzocj3yPw

— Deborah Beck (@DeborahBeckShef) August 2, 2018

Others questioned whether the system had overlooked certain risks.

Hi, Home Office. Did you know that even if parents share a surname, they still might end up with one of them abducting the children? Find a less prejudicial way of dealing with this!

— Ms Ⓥanilla Rose (@MsVanillaRose) August 2, 2018
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