Body-Shaming Is A Universal Issue, This Hashtag Hopes To Change That

'Muscles on women aren't attractive.'
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Whether you’re fat, thin, tall, short or somewhere in between, if you’re a woman, it’s almost a given that at some point someone will body-shame you.

For decades, women have been told they must look a certain way thanks to the one dimensional (and often Photoshopped) idea of beauty perpetuated by the media.

As a result, friends, family and complete strangers feel the need to point out our “imperfections”, sometimes without even realising how hurtful their words are.

To highlight this, women have been sharing the unsolicited comments that others made about their bodies using the hashtag #TheySaid.

It was started by Sally Bergesen, who posted a body-shaming comment she received from her dad at the age of 12 and encouraged others to share their experiences.

"Keep eating like that and you're going to be a butterball." My Dad when I was 12. Pls RT and share a body shaming comment. #TheySaid

— Sally Bergesen (@oiselle_sally) May 25, 2017


It wasn’t long before hundreds of other women used the hashtag to show that, unfortunately, body-shaming is a universal experience.

"At your height and with your foot size no boy will ever want to date you" -My 20 y/o cousin when I was 12. #TheySaid https://t.co/mGL6MD6TVk

— Jessie Kiser (@Je33ieg) June 2, 2017

'Muscles on a woman aren't attractive. You shouldn't look like you can kick my ass' - a man in the grocery store, last December. #TheySaid https://t.co/F5ccb0Ikp7

— Kelsey McEwen (@KelseyMcEwen) June 1, 2017

"Werewolf" & "She'll need a lawnmower for those sideburns" - kids at school #Theysaid

— Debs (@kanedebo) June 2, 2017

"You might actually be pretty if you had boobs and a butt," or "Eat some cake twig," #TheySaid

— Sara Donaldson (@sara_donaldson4) June 2, 2017

"I don't know what you're doing, but you look SO MUCH healthier now. Props for losing all that weight" #TheySaid after I developed anorexia

— Ashley Scarlett (@ashleyyscarlett) June 1, 2017

"You'll never be able to fit in my wedding dress. I was 110# when I got married." -also my mom #theysaid

— Meg Wilson (@MegWilson15) June 1, 2017

But the #TheySaid movement isn’t just about airing comments from the past.

After her initial tweet went viral, Bergesen challenged women to tweet the messages they wish they’d given their body-shamers, to help “arm our girls” of the future.

Here are some of their awesome responses. We’ll be remembering these from now on 🙌

What replies can we arm our girls with? I'll start: "Actually, all bodies are different and I'm just right for me." #TheySaid

— Sally Bergesen (@oiselle_sally) May 25, 2017

"This body is so much more than the machine you're objectifying. For it has the courage and resilience of the human that drives it."

— Lucy Panko (@LucyPanko) May 25, 2017

#shereplied I have carried two sons and they are thriving. My body performs miracles. What does yours do?

— J. Foster (@FosterELA) June 1, 2017

"Thankfully, my body is stronger than the restricted cultural framework you are projecting on it right now."

— Cari Armstrong (@flyfreecari) May 25, 2017

"And what are we gonna do about you being an asshole?" - me, clapping back #SheReplied

— ladeitche (@KathyDeitch) May 28, 2017

"Projecting your body issues onto me is not ok. Keep it up and I will remove you from my life."#theysaid #shereplied

— Kaz (@Kazaargh) May 31, 2017
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