People are sharing their top tips for amazing sex on Reddit - and itâs clear to see that slow sex, gentle foreplay and kissing in sensitive places come out on top.
From the âworld-changingâ sensory effects of blindfolds to why the âin-and-outâ fingering technique just wonât do, hereâs what the internet agrees you need to do for a better time between the sheets.
1. Use A Blindfold
âEspecially if your partner is good at teasing, blindfolds are a world changing experience during sex and foreplay.â - Thedankbank1021
2. Suck Their Finger
âAn ex grabbed my finger halfway through just regular missionary and shoved it in her mouth and sucked. Donât know why but it blew my mind and she had no idea why she did it, she just felt in the heat of the moment.â - Be_your_best96
3. Kiss Their Neck
âThey can be huge erogenous zones, and often completely ignored. Maybe itâs because Iâm Romanian (yeah yeah vampires) but necks are one of my favourite areas on a woman.â - EllisHughTiger
4. Take It Slow
âMasturbation, oral, intercourse, anal, and any other sex you can think of. Do it slow and the feeling of that slow build orgasm is amazing.â - DannyTrejoChestTatoo
5. Use Lube
âThere a lot of people who donât know the simple pleasure of using lube.â - BZerpy
6. Be Gentle
âWhen rubbing a femaleâs clit, a slight pressure is preferred, but please for the love of God do not jack hammer the shit out of our pleasure pearl. We females are sensitive, and I believe I speak for most when I say that too much pressure is painful and quickly turns us off or makes us too sensitive to continue.â - Phirrups
7. âIn-And-Outâ Wonât Do
âI donât know why, but most guys I have ever been with always resort to this simplistic âin-and-outâ motion whenever fingering. This simply will not do for a good majority of females.
âThe inside of the vaginal wall is packed with sensory nerves, and we get much more stimulation with more ground covered. What I have found to be most responsive is sliding in with your fingers, but curling them upwards as you reach the base of your fingers.â - Phirrups
8. Donât Be Afraid Of Anal Foreplay
âMen in general have this fear of anal play but prostate orgasms are fantastic.â - Zimmonda
9. Kiss Their Back
âThereâs this spot on your back, right between your shoulder blades, around the 5th vertebra. Kiss there. No tongue, not too wet. Try to make sure only your lips are touching his/her naked body, not your nose or chin or hands or strands of hair anywhere. And do it slow. Let the other one feel your presence, your body heat, and as you move closer your breath, before you place the kiss.
âSomehow itâs a very sensual place to be kissed, same goes for inside of your elbows, wrists, kneepits, armpits. Wrists are also a good place for slightly wetter kisses.â - Xxmimii
10. Use A Pillow
âPillow under her hips for missionary. The angle all around is much better.â -Kowzorz
11. Switch Things Up During Oral
âWhen giving a girl oral, you donât just have to lick that shit up and down. Most of the pleasure from having sex is not being in control. Make it spontaneous, do ups and downs, switch to swirls, etc. The only time I suggest not doing this is whenever she is getting close to orgasming because then you should stick to a steady, rhythmic motion of whatever it was that was causing her to respond.â - Phirrups
12. Donât Always Set Out To Make Women Orgasm
âIâd say one really important thing for us men to remember is that not all women are desperate for an orgasm each time they have intercourse. It can be real hard to process for us because for most of us this final release is the whole point of the act. But for a lot of women, just having sex without a final orgasm can be satisfactory, as mind-blowing as this is to the average dude.
âBottom line is: if she doesnât cum - and doesnât seem frustrated about it, DONâT PANIC. A woman who hasnât had an orgasm but wants one WILL TELL YOU, perhaps even yell on you to make her come.
âIf so, do it. But if she hasnât and seems fine, donât take it personally and donât make this into an ordeal.â - AnthropomorphicPenis
13. Lick The Edge Of Their Ear
âTongue around the edge of someoneâs ear to where they can just hear the sound of your tongue moving in your mouth, then get as close as you can and breath warm air light onto and into their ear.
âIt will immediately send a good shiver from their neck down their spin to their toes.â - Ronerychiver