Man Nails Why Guys Need To Stop Joking About The 'Friend Zone'

'Women don't owe you a relationship.'

Joking about being relegated to the “friend zone” may feel harmless, but it can actually be pretty offensive.

A writer has schooled the internet on the problems with the phrase, which, let’s face it, is usually used by guys.

TV writer David Slack pointed out that the “friend zone” stems from the idea that a woman “owes you” a relationship, even if she isn’t attracted to you.

It also implies that being friends with a woman is something bad or embarrassing, when in reality, we make pretty great pals.

The debate started after a Twitter user shared a series of images from the TV series ‘Teen Titans’, along with the caption: “These dudes were the definition of being in the friend zone.”

These dudes were the definition of being in the friend zone pic.twitter.com/jF4XyYbEQd

— Jiraiya (@YahBoyJiraiya) November 15, 2016

The original tweet first went viral last year, but earlier this week it was spotted by Slack, who created two of the ‘Teen Titans’ characters.

He commented on the images to point out that women are not “games to be won”.

Hi. I wrote two of these characters. I hope you someday learn what Beast Boy already knew: that women are actually people...

— David Slack (@slack2thefuture) July 3, 2017

They're not games to be won. They have their own minds & hearts, & they don't owe you a relationship just because you're attracted to them.

— David Slack (@slack2thefuture) July 3, 2017

Another Twitter user joined in the thread to say he found it “strange and nonsensical” that people associate the “friend zone” with misogyny.

So Slack laid the concept out for all the understand.

It's neither strange nor nonsensical. The statement "she put me in the friend zone" implies it's a bad place to be & you don't belong there.

— David Slack (@slack2thefuture) July 4, 2017

This implication rests on the assumption that you have the right to be in the "romantic zone" regardless of how the woman feels.

— David Slack (@slack2thefuture) July 4, 2017

And that disregard for the wants, needs, & basic humanity of a woman you claim to like... is misogyny. Hope that clears things up.

— David Slack (@slack2thefuture) July 4, 2017

We think that clears things up nicely.

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