Online dating is a wonderful way to meet other singles, but some people can find it overwhelming. With so many singles available to contact instantly it can be hard knowing how best to make contact and get their attention.
That's why, as a leading dating coach and dating expert, I've helped hundreds of singles navigate the online dating labyrinth. I write dating profiles and make sure they get plenty of dates from the multitude of online dating sites .
To help, here are some fantastic shortcuts I teach my online dating clients to make sure you have a better, more rewarding experience.
Shorter is Better
The most important thing I want to teach you is that you don't have to write long essays to get a reply. You'll be contacting lots of people every day, so sending long messages can really zap your energy and motivation. If they are popular they won't have time to read everything anyway, so short messages will get their attention. Three or four lines is plenty , providing you say something fun, interesting and different that shows you are a good match. For example you can joke about something they have written, ask a question or comment on one of their photos.
Learn to Scan
You honestly don't need to read every single word of their profile...at least not straight away. You are going to be looking hundreds of different people which can be time consuming if you aren't careful. Instead, have a look at the key areas and find something you either have in common or that you can comment on. Check for any reasons that you might not be compatible too as it's important you only contact good matches. You can read the full details of their profile once you've started talking.
The Secret of Favourites and Winking
If you do either of these things they will get an alert message immediately to notify them about it. Many people will then check out your profile so find out more. So make sure you have a red hot profile with an amazing photo that will get their interest. You have to stand out from the crowd for the right reasons. You've only got one chance and if you blow it they will probably never look again. You'll have also have LOTS more success if you contact them as soon as you view their profile.
Take a Break
The more effort you put in then the more dates you'll get. If you find that you are getting a little too burnt out from all the dating, then it's fine to have a little time away. Set a time limit of a week or so where you promise yourself not to log in to your account or check your messages. You can write in your profile that you are on holiday so you don't have to worry about anything urgent. Use the time to reconnect with your friends and family as these are the people you've probably been neglecting. Above all, have a good rest and do all the things you've been putting off. When you come back to dating, you'll be refreshed and ready to go again!
Meet Them.
It sounds obviously, but so many singles forget the obvious. The purpose of online dating is to get you out meeting people in the read world. So don't spend hours, days or even weeks writing endless messages back and forth. Save your conversation for when your first date. A few messages are fine but stand out from your competition and suggest you speak on the phone instead. This is a great way to rule out timewasters. If they are serious about dating then they'll be up for a quick phone call. Once you are speaking remember you still need to keep the chat short. Use the call to make sure you get on and to arrange a date.
The last tip I want to give you from all my years as an online dating expert is that it really can work. You just need to put the effort in and stick at it.